It was a Rainbow.

I haven’t seen too many rainbows.

Just a few over all these years, four or five, I guess.

But I distinctly remember the feeling of seeing one.

Everything that led to its making.

The splurge of excitement when you heard it’s out there.

And the “ahh” moment, when you finally saw it.

Surreal. Magnificent. Enchanting.

Once in a blue moon. Fairy-tale like. Each heartbeat exploding with happiness.

Breathing in the air more consciously, for it seemed different now; more special.

And so, did everything else. After all the rainbow was there.

Love like?

I know that it wasn’t just the rainbow though. It was also everything else around.

It was that light drizzle and the slightly cold and slightly warm but such comforting gentle breeze.

The sun shining wholeheartedly through the soft fluffy grayish clouds that were sprinkled all over. And that stunning almost clear blue sky.

Together they all led to the creation of something spectacular.

Nothing was perfect and yet it was.

All this while that I pondered- trying to make sense out of everything- hoping to give it a name.

Each time I tried, I couldn’t. I think I have begun to understand why.

It wasn’t required.

In all that it was, is and could be – I guess a word would never be enough. How could it even be?

Nothing was perfect and yet it was. Just as surreal, magnificent and enchanting. It was a rainbow.

A rainbow like no other. Even the deepest darkest corner of my heart lit up.

Each hue imprinted forever.

And you?

Well, you are the one that made the rainbow happen.

Dedicated to fall colors.
May all our hearts be imprinted by a rainbow. 

My Wildflower Moment

In the time I’ve had thus far and in the time yet to come, you have always been a moment. Always.

It’s the kind of moment that sticks with you forever; and now wherever I go I carry you with me. 

It’s in my pocket, in my eyes, in the vase placed on my table; it’s in the air I breathe.It’s in my heart. Embedded deep within- like a part of my existence. 

I remember the first time. I guess I always will, it was something special. At least for me. 

You caught me unaware and just like that I embraced you. This was new. 

A moment was created. 

I didn’t know what it meant. I still don’t.

I an amateur artist and you a piece of art; unraveling, demystifying- everyday something new.

In the continuum of life- a new dimension; in my head a new universe. 

I like our conversations. I like our silence. Most importantly I like that this “our” is only mine. 

This moment-I hold it close. An invaluable treasure that life gave me. It’s pure, it’s magical- in so many ways it completes me and yet it never stops me- I grow with it. 

I’ve always been a solo traveler. Guess we all ultimately are. But now with this moment, there is a sense of comfort. I am alone and yet I no longer am alone.

Not everything has to be spoken about. Sometimes it’s the words unsaid that make the bond even stronger. 

There is love, there is companionship, there is friendship and then there is beyond. An existence and a wish - sometimes that’s all you want. 

I’m glad to have found this moment; a stroke of serendipity. In its warmth my heart bounces. In it’s tenderness I feel emancipated. 

I am the wildflower in the forest and you are the wind that caresses me. 

******

Today marks a year since I lost my Eva and her loss has changed my perspective towards a lot things. I’ve been blessed to have had many beautiful experiences in the last one year and I believe she is the reason why I was able to have it all.

Eva taught me the true meaning of forever. She taught me to take things one at a time, to live in the moment and to appreciate everything for what it is. Not everything is meant to happen in the way we want it and to yet be able to understand its value and take it in our stride- she helped me understand that. I guess now I can say that a lot of times how things turn out make life even more special. Therefore, I think it’s befitting to dedicate this piece to Eva- the reason why I could experience something so beautiful. 

Eva it’s been a year since I lost you but not a day has gone by when I haven’t thought about you.

Also, to all the people, who’ve been an important part of my life since forever and to a few important additions that happened in the past one year-  
a heartfelt thank you!

The Concept - I?

Everyone has a something to say.

Everyone.

But what about me?

Why do I feel so lost and so hollow?

Have I not got anything to say or am I too scared to show or am I just living a life of pretence. 

I like the concept- vivid colours.

I’d say if my life were a painting I would like to paint it with ‘em 

But now I no longer know what that means.

What makes me- I know not. Is it you? 

Is it the earth or the stars or the wind ?

Or is it the feeling- pain and hurt behind the smiles- sad eyes with a slight dusty sparkle of hope.

I know not any longer. But I wonder. Everyday- every second. 

I am always on a lookout though I may show I know. But I don’t. Not that I am afraid to show how vulnerable I am.

But yes I’m careful - I want to be. 

My vulnerabilities are mine. I hold them too close to share. What if you just toss it around?

I don’t care if you mock at them. Or maybe I do. But too many times now. I should have learnt my lesson. 

But I have the heart and soul of a dreamer. I love my vulnerabilities and in my world- the one where I reside everyday after having lived in the chaos- if one day I see you there- maybe that’s when I will show you who I really am.

- dedicated to one inspiring evening in New York. 

Make a change? Be You.

Make a change? Be You.

Change. So recently my life has undergone a pretty major change. I completed my graduation and am now going to firsthand experience the much criticized and coveted- corporate world. So obviously there are many aspects of my life that are different now and many that will change in the near future. So, while the prospect of change is accepted and understood fairly well by the majority of earthlings, I decided to look at it from a different and deeper perspective; to understand the dynamics of this process and see if there is a way to make it better or easier or both.

They say that the only constant thing in the world is change. It indeed is. Our surroundings are constantly changing; people, roads, buildings, technology etc and obviously we as individuals are also going through a constant change. There is absolutely nothing on this planet that is devoid of the process and its effects. Right from the beginning of the human civilization, it has undergone many changes; some great and some not so great. I, also believe that one of the most crucial facets of the many elements of change has been ‘ideology’. It is this that has so far shaped and moulded our society and us into what we are today and is continuing to still, as I am typing this article.

A change could be and mean many things. Nothing puts this better than the words of King Whitney Jr.,“Change to the fearful is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better”.

Basically, it could be slow or fast, we may like it or dislike it, accept it or revolt against it, we may be aware of it or not, but a change will happen. And most importantly either way, it will change something in us. In fact in today’s world change is the new fashion and the kind that moves at the speed of an eye blink. And the people seem to have accepted it pretty well. Though the change I am talking about is mostly from a materialistic point of view, even then so it ends up changing something within us. Because every time a change occurs and in whichever form it may be, it evokes an emotion within us; sometimes strong enough to change the way we look at things. And yes, the object could be as ‘trivial’ as a mobile phone.

Now, I think we can broadly categorize change into two kinds: one when the change happens around us and we get affected by it and second when we are the ones making a change. My focus in this article is on the latter. So exactly what happens when we decide to make a change? What are our chances of succeeding? Why is it that we fail at doing that?

Well, firstly the change that you intend to make could either be a personal one or it could be related to your external environment. But remember that even in the case where it does not appear personal, it actually is. Every change that you decide to make is in one way or another related to you. Why? Simply because, the idea of it originates from you. So after you have taken the decision to make a change the first thing you need to do is look into yourself. Having a clear picture and idea about the change needed to be made, is important. Analyse and assess what you are today and what do you see yourself as a result of the change. But the most important and crucial aspect of any change is honesty. The process is actually quite easy-going but the moment you are not honest to the cause is where the complications begin to arise. If you cannot accept who you are today you will never be able to accomplish your objective. Instead of the change happening for good, it will just make life more convoluted for you. And even worse, you will come out as a person who is under-confident and unsure about not just your life but yourself as well.

You know when a change has to be made the process needn’t be as mechanical as we tend to make it. It’s just like eating food. You can gulp it down your throat and make it as boring and monotonous an affair. Or you can chew it in your mouth, relish the flavour and make the meal an enjoyable one. To really benefit from eating and to get that healthy glow of nutrition, one must enjoy their meal. So is the case with making a change.

They say the mantra of a successful life lies in the ability to accept or make a change. Mostly all of us agree on that. Don’t we?  Well, I could have written about that but I think it would have been just re-stating the obvious. I, instead, chose to write about the things that maybe small but I believe are very crucial to a change; things that we overlook. But it is these little things that’ll make you stand out even amongst the successful. Real success is not just about making a change it is about realizing how important it is to savour the whole process of making one and being honest with it.

Yes, making a change is not an easy thing to do. It’s irrefutable that you will face many hurdles. But truth be told, there is no bigger hurdle in life than we can be for ourselves. So remember to be truly successful and satisfied in making a change, begin by being ‘YOU’.

The Unpredictable and The Hope!

The Unpredictable and The Hope

There are many things about life that intrigue us; questions, doubts, meaning, understanding, truth, so forth and so on. But the one thing about it that never fails to amaze me is how unpredictable life is! However much we think and assume that everything is under our control, it takes nothing more than a fraction of seconds for all the planning to go hay wire. Is this a good or a bad thing? I honestly do not know. It is both, I guess. But I also wonder if this is the one quality that makes life so magnanimous and beautiful? Would it be just as meaningful if we were to be a cent percent sure of what was going to happen next? Would it lessen the pain and suffering? Would the celebrations still be grand?

Well, as much as we curse life for being unpredictable, the very fact that it is makes life so much more comfortable and tasteful. It is this very quality that shapes and moulds our minds and personality; making us worthy people. If you already knew that your current project will not work out to be a successful one, would have even considered continuing with it? But now analyse it this way. Had you not gone through that struggle and pain how would you have realised your potential? How would you have then learnt those small but immensely important lessons that life has to offer?  I can go on with more examples like this. But what I intend to express is not how we do not do things because despite the unpredictable nature of life we all plan and the brave hearts amongst us fight it out each day. What I mean to do through this article is throw light on how we just go on doing things without admiring the beauty behind the working of life. I am writing because sometime back this thought struck me and it seemed like suddenly I understood life better; like a moment of salvation.

Now, I believe that everything here on this earth works on the notion of balance. To every positive there is a negative making sure the right balance is maintained; just like how yin and yang work. So, what is it that balances out unpredictability?  Which thing is it that enables us to continue to strive despite the setbacks and unsurely nature of life? Because, it is in our nature as humans that we dislike insecurity, so what is it that helps us to hold on?

Well, I have the answer now. It is ‘hope’.

Hope! This is exactly what helps us to fight it out and live life to the fullest. It rightly balances out unpredictability. We know nothing of what will happen next, if the future will get better, if we will succeed in our career or if the relationship will work out, but yet we continue to live on because we hope. We hope that the future will just get better, we hope to succeed in our career and we hope the relationship will work out. We hope each and every second of our life. I remember reading the story of Pandora and the box, in my early days of school. I had loved the story then and I love it now. I am glad that the fairy of hope came out because she is the reason why the world is just as beautiful. With all the cruelty and shocks that unpredictably renders upon us, hope is like a balm to our wounds. It is the mother to our aching souls.  It teaches us to be positive, to be happy and to take on the challenges with courage.  It is beautiful the way hope works for us. I couldn't imagine a world without it. And I now believe that hope is life and life is hope.

 Don’t you find it absolutely amazing how life works? But rarely do we sit down and admire its beauty. Instead we keep our minds busy with numerous unworthy thoughts. And it isn't always a bad thing to do that. We are humans after all. But only if we’d learn to widen our horizon of thinking, of observing, of interpreting! Only then will we be able to truly savour the fruits that life has to offer. Maybe we all should sometimes sit down and appreciate life, rather than just cribbing about it. Instead of thinking of it as one convoluted puzzle, let us try to understand it better. I always believe that life is simple and it is us who think otherwise. Yes, there will always be questions unanswered, meanings not understood and implications unaccounted for. Life can be bitter but the sweetness does exist. Maybe if look at the sweetness more, the bitterness will lessen. But remember too much sweet can cause diabetes. I know life is unpredictable but then remember there is hope.  

“You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world's problems at once but don't ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.”
                                                                                                           -Michelle Obama

Never stop hoping. Cheers to hope! Cheers to life!

The Ultimate Winner

The Ultimate Winner

We have all grown up hearing the much famous line, “Life is a race”. It has been a part of our childhood, schooling, career, etc. It has been accepted by everyone and is being lived by everyone. For centuries it has been passed on to the future generations like an ancient prophecy necessary for life to sustain. And so we are taught ways and educated in skills required to win this race. Winning has thus become the primary motive in life for, if not all but most of us. The winner is loved and hailed by all; everybody wants to be like the winner. And the loser?  Well, who cares about the loser; nobody wants to be like the loser. But the minute that loser becomes a winner, everyone loves him/her too. The cycle continues and everybody enjoys it. Now, of course, the parameters of winning and losing are also set by us.
Everybody wants the best school, best college, the best house, the best dress, the best job with the highest package and so on. There is also absolutely nothing wrong in wanting the “best” but what is important to note here is that is the best thing actually the best for you?  Have you ever wondered that if this life really is a race then what is it that we racing for and who are we competing against?
Frankly, I believe that in this chaos and fuss of winning and losing the real meaning of life is lost. We are all running this race because we believe that winning will bring us happiness. You know in life the real search is not for success or money, it is for happiness because we believe that by getting all that we will be happy. Sadly however it doesn’t turn out that way for most of us. Do you know why? It is because we are all running after things that others want for us; because we want to prove ourselves to others, for their acknowledgement of our existence. And this is exactly why satisfaction and happiness are a lost cause.
The truth is that this race that we are all running, we are running for no one else but us. The truth also is that there is only one person we are constantly competing against in life, and that is “ourselves”. By this I do not mean to degrade the idea of competition when it comes to getting into an institute or getting a job or anything like that; that is necessary too. But I am talking about the bigger picture here, the picture called life. Now, the sooner you realize that this is your race alone the faster you will become its master and more fruitful will the journey be for you. It is this realization that will help you actually become the winner because it is this that will truly make you happy. And the ultimate winner in life is the one who is happy because to be happy from within is actually one of the most difficult things in life. It is easy to show that you are happy but being happy is a different thing all together. It is easy to smile from the lips but the real smile is the one that comes from the eyes and that happens only when you are happy from within; when your soul is happy. And the soul will be happy when you do things you actually want and not what others want from you.
The secret of winning the race of life is simple. It is to be happy because happiness is what makes you powerful. It is only then that you will be satisfied because you will be living and doing your passion and not living a life of chaos and confusion. Learn to take control of your life and be clear about what you want from it. There is no point in reaching the finish line and not being happy because in your heart you’d know that whatever you achieved was only because they wanted it. But that race would be over, nothing you do then will undo it. However, right now you can because right now it is still in your hands. Remember always that you will never be able to live your life to the fullest so long as you try to live up to others. It is only when you live up to yourself that others will look up to you because in all the chaos it is you then who will stand out clear and confident. It is then that you will truly inspire. Because you shall be the ultimate winner.

“The eyes of a true winner sparkle. You’ll see the brilliance, the peace and the intelligibility. But what will leave you dazzled is the happiness in them.”

Be happy. Be a winner.

The Blame Game

The Blame Game

Most of us play this game often and sadly most of us enjoy it too. Isn’t it always easier to blame others for our mistakes? Blaming always seems so convenient. You might not agree with me on the part about enjoying it, but take a minute and think about it honestly, you’ll know for yourself whether it is true or not. But in this game of blaming each other, have you ever thought about who the loser and who the winner is?

Well, I can’t say who stands the winner; honestly I don’t think there is any. But I am sure about who the loser is. The loser is no one else but the one who blames. I have always wondered as to what is it that makes us fall prey to this vicious habit. Come to think of it, I guess blaming is in some way like a ‘luxury’ and it is the kind that not just spoils you but also causes tribulations for you. It is a luxury that overwhelms you with its false glamour that always projects you as a person who seems to be doing everything right in his or her life. It makes you sympathise with yourself; always putting life and people as unfair to you. But remember that every time you blame, you are marked with a scar of weakness. And you will eventually either for your own good realise that it is no else but ‘you’ who is responsible for your life or else unfortunately these scars will consume you to the point that you would have lost your individuality.

But the bigger question here is, why do we blame at all? Are we not in charge of our own life? Or are we ashamed of acknowledging our failures and weaknesses or the person that we are? Or is it simply the easiest way out?

Be it career, education, relationships or any other situation in life, blaming is a futile exercise and the only thing you are doing is spending too much energy finding excuses for not being what you are capable of being. Blaming is not the easiest way out; it is in fact the most terrible way out.

Nobody is perfect. We are bound to make the wrong choices and fall short of accomplishing our goals sometimes. And it is okay to do so. There will be times when you will be successful and other times when you won’t. The fact of the matter is that you do not fail when you are not successful in achieving your aim, you fail when you blame others for the same. Believe me you will continue to be a non-achiever for as long as you do that. What you should actually be doing is to look at where you went wrong and then improvise. Blaming only complicates things; it certainly is not a solution to any problem.

Even in the case of relationships, there are times when we find that people do not reciprocate as we expect them to. This obviously disturbs us and we often blame them for the misery we go through. But, then we are again are looking at the picture in the wrong way. People around us mostly treat us the way we allow them to. If people take us for granted it is because we allow them to, if people think of us as weak or make fun of us, it is only because we allow them to. People often end up blaming others instead of looking at themselves and the things they have been doing or things that they ought to do now. Maybe if you could change the way you react or do certain things? Or maybe you need to simply let go and move on? Well, relationships are tricky and sometimes they get too complicated to understand but surely there lies no point in always blaming the other person. It will only cloud your judgement or understanding of the situation. When things go wrong, you’ve got to try to work it out and try it till the point you think you can, beyond that you can only let time be the healer. And sometimes you need to simply let go. Believe me there lies no good in holding a grudge against someone ever, for it only corrupts your mind with negativity. Always remember the good things that people do. And if there is no good, then learn your lesson from the bad things and move on.

Remember that this is your life. You can either control it or let others control it for you. It is when you blame that you allow others to control your life. Thereafter, it is a life full of frustration, anger and misery; there is hardly any peace in your life. So learn to take control of your life. Take on the challenges that life throws at you with great audacity. And STOP blaming. You and you alone are the ‘master’ of your life; of your fate!

                                                                         

“When you blame others, you give up the power to change”- Dr Robert Anthony