Mistakes-The Haunting Ghosts?

Mistakes-The haunting Ghosts?

One thing that everyone fears in life is making a mistake. Mistakes are often taken to self-esteem and pride. Sometimes so much that they can lead people into the sad world of depression and fear. I wonder what it is about mistakes that make us so frightful of them. Why are mistakes always taken as something that is bad?

History has stated bad mistakes which have set bad examples and have led people to wrong doings. Yes, nobody would want that to ever happen if it hurt human life in anyway. But I am not talking about mistakes like those; I am referring here to the lesser complex mistakes that we make in our normal routine lives. I am talking about the decisions that we make, which when go haywire we consider them a mistake. Decisions about relationships, family, career and so on; decisions about our life that affect it on a daily basis.

I believe that mistakes are like the opening of new gateways in our lives. They help us to have a better understanding of the different elements of life. Every decision that you have considered a mistake, for a few seconds think about it more deeply. Let us take for example our career. We make the wrong choice. We chose a profession that we are not happy with. So what? Do we then just take it as one big mistake and spend the rest of our life repenting our decision? Certainly not! Let us take other example-relationships. We misbehaved with someone, were unfair to someone who loved us or we took the wrong person for being the love of our life. So in all these circumstances do we just sit back thinking oh we made a mistake, our life is ruined now or that I am a person capable of nothing? NO! Absolutely not! That should probably be one of the last things on our mind if at all they are there.

We have one life to ourselves. It is a blessing bestowed upon us, we cannot just waste it like that. It is okay to take the wrong decision or to make the wrong choices. Be an optimist, if we took a wrong decision we can also find ways to make it better. Always take them as a way of realizing where you fell short in life. And falling short is not a bad thing; it always helps us to improve ourselves. Always improvise on the decisions you made that went the wrong way, never repent them. Mistakes are in a funny way one of the best things that happen to you. They have the power of bringing out the better in you, they are a way of keeping a check on you, a way of realizing the true potential that lies buried in you; however, only if taken the right away. Also had you not taken the wrong decision you wouldn't have come to know of so many other possibilities that exist around you, for you.

 Take your “mistakes” in the right spirit always. Believe me if you do, your life is going to be of the kind that everyone aspires to have. Life is a beautiful thing. Take everything it has to offer to you in a way that you can make the best out of it; even the mistakes. Do not allow them to be ghosts that will haunt you forever.

Deep in My Heart.

Deep in my heart,

there lies a scar clearly marked

the mark a reminder

of a cluster of memories; abattoir,

of things I wished wouldn't be,

but yes they are, they define me.

The scar, a cruel maze

In it I’m abandoned, I’m in a daze,

I’m running fast; faster,

Away from a darkness that just keeps getting darker,

“I’m trapped” but I can’t shout, can’t cry!

Its like a marsh I’m stuck in no matter how hard I try.

I’m hurt, the pain is unbearable,

But it can only be felt; indescribable

Even in the brightness the shadow follows me,

Now it’s only in my eyes the hurt you can see.

Quiescent weather, despair falls upon,

But the fairy of hope lives, for not it is my only dawn,

That’ll come I know; rebirth; I shall again be born,

But till then I walk, with faith my sago on and on…..!

I am sharing with you a poem I had written a year back, during the tough times. And believe me the faith kept me strong and sturdy. It surely did its magic!
And I am sure it will for you as well, whenever the need be.

A Toast to Friendship!

                                                            A Toast to Friendship!

Friendship is one of those relationships that has been valued beyond any known limits, beyond blood, beyond life! It is one of the most beautiful and cherishing experience of life. And we have legends to state that, dating from time as back as humans have been known to exist.

However, one of the most common saying of today is “to find a true friend in today’s world is tough”. Some people even state it as an impossible thing. So when I hear this, I always wonder what they mean by the term “today’s world”. What makes the world of today so sadly unique that a true friend is thought of as once upon a time tale? The answers that follow are- its competitive, people are greedy, nobody has time, it is a fast moving world, nobody really cares or people care only when they need you and so on.

But I am a firm believer of friendship and have always believed that these things are only meant to be said. I have changed ten schools, two colleges and have been to almost every corner of my country, India. I have met people from different cultures, religions etc but never has my faith in friendship been lost. Yes I have had my shares of jealous friends, overly competitive friends and friends with the so called qualities of today’s world. But I have always been blessed to have people around me who cared for me and who I cared for. Even today when I meet my dearest friend from fifth standard, it feels as though we were always there for each other. The same goes for all my other dear friends. These people have taught me to become a better person. They have corrected me when I was wrong, held my hand when I was weak and have looked out for my support when they needed it. Yes we have fought, had our tough times together but somehow that never made us question our friendship.

Greed, jealousy, competition-they have always been a part of human existence, they are all a part of human nature. But all these things have never been able to question the strength of friendship. We all have someone who has always been there for us and that person is our dearest friend. There are times when we have bad experiences, when we mistake some people for being our friends. But even in all this we will have someone who’ll stand by us.

Friendship has never known any religion, caste, color or distance and neither will it ever. It’s a feeling so pure and powerful. It has always taken the world by its awe.

To all my dearest friends and to all of you who believe in friendship...cheers!

Dedicated to my dearest friends-a special toast to: Niki, Ish, Pav, Tuli, Nea, Shash and Dove.

The Start to a New Beginning..

The start to a new beginning...

So I've been meaning to write a blog, rather start my own for the past 2 years and each time I would get stuck at the point where I had to choose a topic. So over the last few days I have been having this very strong urge to write and then suddenly tonight it struck me-my topic!

And how did it strike? I’m sitting with my laptop on, telling my dearest friend how I've been wanting to write but can’t find any inspiration and at the same time reflecting upon whatever I have been feeling about myself and life over the past few days rather the past three years and then in my mind pops up this question, “what is the most difficult part of when you want to start with something?” and the answer I come up with is “the start”. So there came my topic.

We all think of so many things we want to do or aspire to do for ourselves, our family, our friends or it could be for just anyone or anything. But how many of us are actually able to act upon those thoughts of ours? More so especially after a failure, when we fail to get to our goal. All of us have heard the famous quotes- how brave are those who not just win, but have the courage to pull themselves up after a failure or how failure is the essence of success and so on. We hear them all the time and also use them often to encourage our dear ones. But what about us, ourselves? Why does it become so difficult to gather courage to do something, to work for something after a failure?

I had a dream about what I wanted my life to be like in college. I dream't about it all the time, of the colleges I wanted to be in. And when things went haywire, when that dream could not come true I would just spend all my time feeling sad, feeling angry and feeling dejected. Alas the taste of failure ain't good but I slowly pulled up my socks after realizing those feelings won’t help me and failure is not just about me not being able to live my dream but more so about me now wasting my time feeling sad and dejected over something in the past. I knew, for I had the realization that I could still turn things around for me. All that I needed to do was to think positive and work upon it. Sadly till now I have never been able to bring myself up to the point of working on it. It’s like I fear that i might fail again. But does one single non-achievement have so much power, that it can lead to a path of self-destruction or self-underestimation? Why even after knowing that it actually is no failure am I not able to gather up the courage to set my boat a sail? I keep looking for ways to do. I come up with like a billion ideas, but I never work on them! Am I so afraid of facing what lies ahead, thinking that it’ll mostly be failure and so a safer bet is to hold onto this boat rather than letting it sink deeper?

 From within I can still hear a voice, saying I am just being silly for I am wasting my life this way.It is all about that start now and all I need is a little push, like a source of motivation, self-motivation. And the start lies around me, within me..... I just need to have a little more faith in myself, in life. I have this one life and only I can figure out ways for myself, I just need to keep my mind open to all the wonderful things that life has to offer to me and shut my mind to all the things that are proving a hindrance to this start. It is time to get things together and start working hard. Yes, the start is not going to be like a bed of roses, I will have to be very patient and keep working hard. After all how can life be so much fun with it just being all so easy, I guess it’s the struggle that adds so many elements to it without which it wouldn't be meaningful at all!

Well, I am glad I finally wrote this article though it may not be all that refined and polished in terms of its objective but then I feel like I've finally found my new start....!